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Margaret Nichols

Margaret Nichols, PhD, CSTS


21st Century LGBTQ+:
Not your mother's gay community

Saturday November 9, 2019
9:00 - 5:00       $165/$140 through 10/18     7 CE hours


If you see same sex couples in your practice, you may have noticed that things have changed, especially among younger people. Your same sex couple is likely to have one partner who is bisexual, pansexual, asexual, transgender, gender fluid, kinky, or polyamorous. Even therapists trained as recently as a decade ago are out of step with current changes in the LGBTQ+ community and the new models of sex and gender variance.

These couples present unique issues and challenges. In this workshop, you will hear current research about same sex couples relationship functioning and sexuality. Through didactic lecture, case examples and role play exercises, you will gain skills to work with same sex couples, regardless of the identities of the partners. In addition, you will learn what skills these couples can teach us which are transferable to straight relationships: the consent culture and communication skills of kinky people, the way polyamorous people handle jealousy, the ways same sex couples achieve egalitarianism.

By the end of this workshop, you will know far more about today’s ‘queer’ community and relationships than you ever learned in grad school!

You will discover:

  • Same sex couples differ from mixed sex couples in surprising ways that include how they express intimacy, resolve conflict, share parenting and household duties
  • Same sex couples differ from mixed sex couples in they way they “do” sex, such as more comfort with nonmonogamy
  • Female couples differ from male couples in their sexual practices and attachment styles
  • Therapists can learn things from same sex couples to apply to work with straight couples.

Participants will learn how to:

  • Explain how lesbians and gay men handle sexuality and intimacy differently than mixed sex couples
  • Describe research conclusions from same sex couples that apply to mixed sex couples
  • List the differences between late 20th and current 21st century mental health models of gender diversity
  • Assess unique needs of clients who are transgender, nonbinary, gender fluid, pansexual, kinky
  • Select appropriate approach for navigating consensual monogamy
  • Create plan for working with family when one partner is not “out” and supporting parents of gender diverse kids

Margaret Nichols, PhD is a powerful and dynamic speaker with an ability to use humor, emotion, and analogy to create a connection with her audience. Dr. Nichols is a psychologist and sex therapist as well as the founder of the Institute for Personal Growth, a psychotherapy organization in New Jersey specializing in sex therapy and other clinical work with the sex and gender diverse community since 1983. She is an international speaker on LGBTQ issues and author of many peer reviewed articles and papers on LGBTQ sexuality and mental health issues. She is currently finishing a book, Gender Expansive Kids, Polyamorous Couples, and Mostly Heterosexual Men, a guide for therapists on working with the LGBTQ+ community due out in 2020.